Confused Over Where To Get Married

by Rosie

My fiancé and I just got engaged a few weeks ago. He proposed on my 18th birthday and it was amazing. We live overseas from each other in the UK and he says he wants to have three weddings. One in America, one where he lives and one where I live.

I'm really worried about the money aspect and I'm worried he'll think I'm not taking his opinion into consideration if I say I don't want a wedding in America.

His parents don't want to come to where I live because they don't like planes and boats, but I think it's a little unfair on my family telling them they have to fly or get the boat over to his.

Your website has helped a lot, it's amazing. But I still don't know what to do about this situation.

Thank you.

Answer:

Congratulations on your engagement!

First of all, you can only get married once, so you’ll need to decide on which country you want to get married in. You’ll also need to check the legal requirements as I believe both parties (you and your fiancé) usually need to be resident in that country for a set amount of time before you can get married. If you check that out, that may help you decide where you get married.

There’s no reason why you can’t have two or three receptions though! You could even have a ‘repeat’ of the vows from the legal ceremony or a blessing in the various countries, but this will, of course, push up the cost.

The best thing would be to talk openly to your fiancé and discuss how you’re going to fund the weddings. He may already have a plan in mind. Together you should work out how you’re going to do this and then you can set about planning them!

I hope that helps.